Let it OUT!

A lot of stress in people’s lives comes from the frustrations of having broken relationships with family, friends, or significant others.  The first instinct is to bottle up all of your feelings until you explode.  My advice to everyone dealing with a broken relationship is to just let it all out.  Write a letter to that person who is lost from your life.  It doesn’t even have to be a letter that you actually send, unless you are comfortable enough with doing so.

3 Reasons to WRITE IT OUT!

1. You will learn a lot about yourself.  While writing the letter you might discover some of your own flaws that could have added to the breaking of the relationship.  If you felt like you were to blame, you might realize that you shouldn’t have been blaming yourself at all.
2. It’s a great stress reliever.  When you bottle up anger and frustration, you begin to feel very stressed out and focusing becomes an issue.  Letting out your feelings will allow you to de-stress and clear your head.
3. It might help fix your relationship.  If you decided to actually give it to the person, it could lead to an open conversation about your relationship.  Sometimes you can fix what is broken just by letting the other person know how you feel.  A lot of relationships end because of a failure to communicate.  Now is your chance to see if that was your real problem.

I wrote a letter to a lost friend and while it doesn’t fix our relationship, it still allowed me to let go of a lot of pent up anger that I had towards her. Anger is not bad unless you purposely use it to hurt another. We must feel our feelings and let them process through. For some people, writing can help.   Here is a short part of that letter.  I left out some of the more personal parts but the main points remain.

Dear “Friend”

We used to pride ourselves on having a strong friendship that could never be broken.  Somehow that strong friendship slowly began to break.  You know so many things about me that I had only told you and you decided to start using those things against me.  You constantly blamed me for things that weren’t even close to being my fault.  Your jokes starting turning into mean jabs at me.  I wish I knew what changed you.  All of our fun times began to seem as if they didn’t matter anymore.  Hanging out with you turned into feeling like a chore that you dread doing. I continuously forgave you despite everyone telling me that I shouldn’t bother.  I should have fought harder for our friendship but you never did anything to make me want to.  I miss being able to go over your house almost every weekend and do the craziest of things.  If we cant have mutual respect in our friendship then I am just going to have to deal with not having you in my life.  No matter what, I will always cherish the good moments.  Maybe one day we will be able to restart our friendship, but if not it was nice while it lasted.

My final words to you are to stop bottling up your feelings; it is super unhealthy.  Let your head be clear and begin to bring some positivity into your life.  You won’t regret it!