Get Smart: Be Allies, Not Enemies

As women, we have enough to worry about on a daily basis without also worrying about being stabbed in the back by other women. Instead of trying to compete with each other and bringing each other down, we should be helping our fellow women to achieve their goals and boost their confidence.

Having Each Other’s Backs

When did women start thinking that it was okay to turn on our own gender? While the movie Mean Girls is not a true story, it does reflect a lot of what can go on in the world of women. As we grow older, I feel that women get more and more hostile toward each other, whether it is by stealing each other’s boyfriends, starting rumors to ruin reputations, or worse.

I am going to be completely honest when I say that I have found myself (on multiple occasions, if I might add) thinking, “I cannot stand girls.” I hate that this is a thought that pops into my head, but lately, I have been so frustrated with our gender. It feels like nobody has anybody’s back anymore. So many women have decided that they would rather compete with each other than support on another. Our gender is constantly trying to one-up each other, and this is in no way healthy. Attending an all-girls high school taught me that women are stronger together, as a united force. When we work together, nobody and nothing can stop us. It is about time that we start having each other’s backs again!

The Index Card Group

As a member of the Get Smart Junior Advisory Board, I have been able to form bonds with so many great women. At a recent meeting of Get Smart members, a beautiful and new bond was created after one of our members decided to share a very personal and inspiring story about her life. Part of her story included how she dealt with her struggle: making an index card with three self affirmations.

After sharing her story, we all started pouring our hearts out to each other. It turned into a night of sharing and advice giving and it was amazing to see what can happen when a group of girls feels comfortable with each other. By the end of the night, we had formed an unbreakable bond that will go well beyond that meeting. We even started a group chat that we use to gain support and advice from each other and to talk about whatever is on our minds. All of us loved the idea of using an index card to boost our confidence and self-worth, so we decided to call our group, “The Index Card.” We will always be there for each other, and that is the most comforting thing of all.

Rule the World

It is an absolutely amazing thing when a group of women can come together to support each other. There is no need to try to take each other down; we are not each other’s enemies. Do not be someone’s reason for being frustrated with our gender. We need to build trust amongst each other if we ever want to take the world by storm. If we cannot trust each other, how can we expect the rest of the world to trust us? Help change this world by changing how you treat other women. It only takes one person to start a domino effect…be that one person and start changing the world!