“Our experiences influence the person we become.”

What – NO GUYS?

When the time came to reveal to my friends that I would be attending a small, private, Catholic women’s university, many of them made fun of me. They were confused as to why I wouldn’t want to experience the “traditional” college experience.

My friends were looking forward to guys and partying not academics. Every person is different, but for me, college wasn’t about partying or hookups, or even finding a husband. It was about trying to figure out who I was as an individual, exploring my purpose in life and giving myself the world of opportunities. It was also about finding an environment that was the best fit for me at that point in my life.

Living in Silence

Reflecting back on my high school career, I remember spending most of my time waiting to be heard. I would speak, but it felt as though no one was listening. My voice never seemed to be strong enough amongst the people I surrounded myself with.

I now understand the people I called my “friends” were a part of the problem. I wasn’t being lifted or supported; instead these “friends” bullied me and made me feel worthless with their laughter and words. The less I spoke, the more I felt worthless. I felt it would be easier to listen to those around me than to try so hard to be heard. I decided to live in a lifetime of silence. I didn’t realize it then, but when I made the decision, I not only silenced my voice, but my opinions, hopes and dreams.

Setting myself free…

At the time, I wasn’t aware of the benefits of attending an all women’s college. The male-free environment allowed me to come out of my shell.

It wasn’t until I started my first semester at University of Saint Joseph that I realized the value of choosing the right people to spend our time with. I was now surrounded by women who valued academic excellence, respected one another, and committed themselves to making St. Joe’s an outstanding place to be. At that moment, I realized I had made the best decision of my life.

Some of the reasons why I chose to attend a women’s college

1. Size Matters – what drew me in was the smaller classroom size, more attention from my professors and a nurturing environment to learn and grow in.

2.  Leadership skills – I highly suggest you get involved on campus. Whether that be in student government, becoming a resident assistant, joining a club, working as a tour guide, etc. These leadership positions will help you gain knowledge and skills to be a stronger candidate once you graduate.

3 Higher self-esteem – I found my voice and inner confidence while being in a supportive environment that let me grow and learn. A women’s college was the setting that worked best for me.

I am grateful for my experience and decision to receive a degree from one of the 47 remaining women’s colleges, and I hope to inspire other young women to take the journey and invest in themselves and their futures. You will not be disappointed!

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