All too often I hear girls say, “I can’t be friends with girls, they’re crazy” or, “girls are just too much drama.” What causes girls to think so negatively about other girls? Why cant we all just get along? So here are five reasons why you can totally be friends with other girls.
Because “girl” isn’t a personality type
There is something clearly ironic about a girl saying she can’t be friends with other girls. But more importantly why wouldn’t you want to be? As females I feel that we already spend so much time trying to prove to men that there is more to women than these predisposed stereotypes, that I find it frustrating when I have to convince other girls of that fact as well. Isn’t it obvious by now that we are all so different from one another, each possessing such unique and amazing qualities, that we can’t all mindlessly be put in one group?
More importantly, if girls still believe these things about other girls, what can we expect from the rest of the world? It starts and ends with us—we must be empowered as women, to lift up those around us—because it’s so easy to turn the other cheek. Instead of saying “I don’t like girls because they gossip,” show people that you’re a girl that doesn’t like to gossip. Living through example is the most powerful statement you will ever make. Being a girl doesn’t define your personality, and you shouldn’t let it define others’ either.
Because saying you’re not, doesn’t impress anyone
Sometimes girls think that by saying they don’t get along with other girls, it helps them better fit in with “the boys.” And it will, with boys. But real men, deserving of you and all of your awesomeness, will prefer a woman who is confident and proud to be who she is, over someone who shows blatant disregard for a gender which they’re a part of. When you put other women down, all you’re doing is giving others a license to put you down as well. Being female is something that should be worn as a badge of honor, not a scarlet letter.
Because there is nothing as therapeutic as girl time
There is no one on this planet that will be more sympathetic to your complaining then your girl friends. Whether you need someone to be there while you cry or tell you when you’re being an idiot, you can always count on your friends to give it to you straight.
It’s important to realize that often the most meaningful relationships you will have throughout your lifetime will be with your best friends. These friendships can be some of the greatest love stories of all time—just ask Thelma and Louise, Romy and Michelle, and Monica and Rachel—and if you still don’t know what I’m talking about, rent Beeches, and all your questions will be answered.
Because of all the incredible women out there who empower us everyday
“Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions. Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.” —Tina Fey, forever promoting the intrinsic of value self-authenticity.
“What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you.” —Lupita Nyong’o, inspiring us to believe that there is nothing more beautiful than love for self and love for others.
“Respect isn’t something you command through intimidation and intellectual bullying. It’s something you build through a long life of treating people how you want to be treated and focusing on your mission.” —Lena Dunham, serving up a little dose of reality by teaching us the power of earning respect through positivity.
“Rooting for other people’s failure does get in the way of your success.” —Amy Poehler, the hilarious angel on our shoulder, always reminding us that being a good person is a factor in your own success.
Because sometimes you gotta give a girl a break
Not everyone is quite as social as they should or would like to be in certain situations, and sometimes being shy or quiet, can come across as rude and being confident can come across as conceited, or bitchy. So remember to cut everyone a little slack now and again because, first impressions are rough and not everyone makes a good one.
Making friends is never easy and you’re not always going to get along with everyone, but more often than not, people are more than what they seem. When you really try to get to know who someone is, learn their story and find a common ground, you’ll discover that it’s really easy to like them. And if it’s not that easy, move on, but don’t let that experience tarnish your potential friendships.
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