I took a bit of a hiatus from heartbreak lesson series and then a friend asked me…”What happened to the heartbreak series…how does it END?”

It occurred to me in that moment that my writing for the past several weeks has brought me to a beautiful place that is available for each and every person that has ever had their heart broken.

This place is: completion. It is the moment you declare your heart healed. The funny thing is I’ve worn a beautiful silver and gold  ring  that I bought in 2008 to symbolize another instance where my heart healed. I’d been wearing it on my left ring finger for years and recently (and randomly) it began to irritate my finger as if I was allergic to it!

I had kept that ring on my left hand ring finger for so many years — protecting my heart from really accepting true love. It was as if my own finger was rejecting it — saying it was safe now and ok to be available to love. I then moved it to my right hand ring finger. (*left ring finger is usually where one wears a ring that may symbolize a commitment to another)

I write this for the many people that have loved with all their heart — many times. Perhaps you gave to much or accepted less than you deserve. Perhaps you’ve even repeated that mistake more than once and are angry at yourself.

The moment of self-forgiveness and declaring your heart healed is a beautiful moment where possibility is restored and a cycle has come full circle.

Certain relationships may make you swear off love for good…but that my friends is impossible. We are WIRED for relationship. We become who we are in the art of loving ourselves enough such that another can follow suit. The road for some of us will be swift, and others will be long and arduous.

Whatever you do — never ever give up on the one thing that has never changed since human beings began. Love is not romance. It is not flowers. Despite my example, it is not rings and weddings. It is a space where anything and everything is possible….where your dreams and visions are able to come into reality. It is a condition that is caused by doing nothing. There is no forcing, cajoling, or maneuvering. There is just who you are in this moment and that is enough. It has always been enough.

No one can force the healing process. You must always come to it in your own time. The end kind of rocks. Hold on and believe…always.

With love,

Steph