With 1 in 3 college women being effected by domestic violence in her lifetime, this is something we can no longer ignore. As a sister of Alpha Chi Omega and long time supporter of uplifting women to new heights, domestic violence is an issue that can no longer be silenced. Alpha Chi Omega is proud to support victims of domestic violence through fundraisers and on and off campus activities and events at Elon University’s campus.

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, a woman is beaten or assaulted in the United States every nine seconds. Domestic violence affects women of all ages, shapes, colors, religions, marital statuses, and sizes. It is a violation of women’s fundamental rights. With the media releasing horrific stories related to domestic violence, it has given society the chance to step back and take a look at this very serious issue.

Domestic violence is a topic that is often swept under the rug. People hesitate to start the conversation because it is such a sensitive and personal topic for many. People assume that someone else will do the job, and as a result, it never gets done. Domestic violence is a topic that grows and only gets worse because of silence. Many people who are victims of domestic violence feel as though they are alone and that there is nobody they can turn to for help. If each one of us starts the conversation in our own communities, that mindset can and will change.

Here are some tips and tricks to start the difficult conversation from The Shelter for Abused Women and Children:

1. Educate yourself on the topic. Know the warning signs.
2. If you know a victim, tell them you care and are worried for them and want to help them get the necessary assistance. Don’t blame them for not leaving or walking away sooner.
3. As news headlines fade, so does the discussion. It’s our chance to keep the conversation going. Don’t let it die out. Talk to your family and friends about what healthy relationships look like.
4. Organize or partner with another organization that can host an event on campus to get the college community involved in the conversation.

You don’t have to be an expert on the issue to help a friend, family member, or classmate going through a rough time. It’s important to remember that if you think a friend or family member needs help, reach out to them. Let them know you’re concerned for their safety and want to be there for them if they need help. Just being there and being able to offer your insight and listening ears can make all the difference. Don’t blame the victim but instead be her confidante. You can point them in the right direction and point them to resources that can give them the appropriate help they may need to get through the rough patch. There is no excuse for domestic abuse. Always remember that love does not hurt. If you or someone you know is in trouble, please call 1-800-799-7233.